have happy and healthy relationship: Advice from couples together from 6 months to 50 years

Is there a secret to having a healthy relationship?

You see loving and happy relationships on TV and in movies all of the time. It is hard to imagine that it is something you could actually have. Everything just seems like a fairytale and so unachievable. Well, a healthy relationship isn’t always a fairytale. It takes a lot of work, love, patience, trust, loyalty, and communication. I asked on Facebook and Instagram for relationship advice from couples who have been together for various amounts of time. And I think they had some very wise things to say!

0 – 10 years

• Communicate and being respectful but honest; Confronting when needed! – 6 months
• Never go to bed angry. – 1.5 years
• Communication is key, and don’t go to bed angry. – 2 years
• Learn how the other communicates. – 2 years
• Go with the flow and don’t rush anything. Be happy and live in the moment. Communication is key. Remember that you are right together, not against each other. – 3 years
• Love Jesus more than anything/anyone. Set time aside every week for a date. – 6 years
• Communicate feelings immediately or when appropriate. Coming to a solution or apologizing is much better than bottling it up. Figure out each other’s love language. – 9 years

11- 20 years

• Have fun and laugh together. – 14 years
• We are in this thing together and embracing a mindset that there is no “giving up”. Don’t take yourself too seriously. There are not many things in life worth getting upset about. Tolerate each other and just keep loving each other. – 25 years
• Never stop dating and be quick to apologize. Not every irritation or annoyance needs to be voiced. – 26 years
• Love Jesus more. – 28 years
• Never stop going on dates, do things together and laugh a lot. – 28 years

21 – 30 years

• Be best friends. Your spouse is more important than your kids. Travel often. – 30 years

31+ years

• Pray together, always apologize, talk it out, and no secrets. – 41 years
• Marriage is not 50/50. It is 100/100. –  48+ years

Extra advice 

• Love the Lord and put Him first and serve each other selflessly. 
• Always put the other first

What about you? Are you single or in a relationship? What advice do you have or looking for?