Dear Middle School Madison,
Just kidding, but not really. You think you have it tough now, just wait till you’re out in the real world. Trust me when I say that I remember how awful and terrible it was during that wonderful phase between 6th and 8th grade. The braces, the acne, the lack of style, the short hair, the shyness, and top it all off with being one of the smartest kids in class. Which for some reason was a bad thing which I will never understand? I wish I could go back in time and not dumb down just to try and make friends in high school.
Well, you’ll be happy to hear that we now have Invisalign because the first orthodontist screwed it up. We also have fairly clear skin that flairs up from time to time, and the hair is finally past our shoulders (would have been longer if we didn’t bleach it in college, bad choice) We’re still shy to those we don’t know but our friends get to see the very loud and crazy side which you probably didn’t know we had. I know it is crazy hearing that we have friends after those lonely three years in middle school.
Also, stop right now trying to catch any guy that you can. It is going to be the only thing that your friends talk to you about so I am sorry to say that we have become the “boy crazy” girl of the group. Those stupid boys are all so wrong for you and you’re going to meet a guy that you’re absolutely crazy about and going to spend the rest of your life with. You’re not going to meet him until you’re 19 so spend the rest of middle school and high school focused on studying and spending time with your friends.
Also, make sure you start standing up for yourself. That is something that I want to go back in time and change the most. We let people walk all over us and I still do that, unfortunately. I have gotten a little better but not to where I should be. I am still a huge people pleaser which has caused me to be burnt out more than I should be. Because of this I have been severely underpaid, worked more hours than any human should, and been pushed far past my limits when I had nothing else to give.
College is going to be hard so make sure you study hard and show up to class more often. I need you to know that it’s okay to not know what for sure what career path you want to follow. It is something that I am still figuring out for myself. Do I want to stay where I am or should I get out of my comfort zone and explore another path? I’m telling you life is hard! But at the same time, it is oh so wonderful and exciting and just an adventure.
So that’s a little glimpse as to what is ahead for you, so buckle up and get ready for the ride.
I love you.
I love us.
I love me.